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Question:

Dear scholar, I am a 18 year old Muslim and come from a good family. I always fear doing the wrong thing. In June 2008 me and my family went to Pakistan. My mom asked me if I wanted to get married and I said no. when arriving in Pakistan many of my family members pressured me into getting married. I got married and I am not happy with my marriage. my husband has done nothing wrong but feel it was a mistake because I intended to get married to another relative of mine. Could being pressured into a marriage be a legitimate reason for divorce? however, I fear divorce because I feel that my husband might do something to himself because he cares a lot about me.

The heart is center of everything that can encourage people to do good, or bad and the heart also easily changed.
Touching the hearts of a person to become a good man is not an easy job. Below are 10 tips that can be applied to win the others heart:

Smile

It is the first and the fastest of them (tips) all. It is like the salt for food. It is also regarded as a kind of worship and alms-giving as is mentioned in a hadith “Smiling at your brother’s face is as charity (Sadaqa)”.

Question:

What is the reason why a woman is not allowed to observe a nafil fast without her husband’s permission even though that is an act of worship, and there is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator?.

Answer:

Praise be to Allah.

Al-Bukhari (5191) and Muslim (1026) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission.”

Divorce is not at all viewed favourably in Islam; rather it has been either condemned or discouraged unless warranted by valid reasons. The Prophet, peace be upon him, cautioned against senseless exercise of divorce when he said, “divorce is the most abominable of all permissible acts in the sight of Allah.” So no one with the sound Islamic spirit and attitude must resort to divorce except in extreme and unavoidable cases, where it has been considered as legitimate in Islam.

Because of that Islam considers marriage as a solemn contract (mithaq ghaleezh); and reckons it as the duty of both parties who have entered into such contract by invoking God’s name and words, to seek to preserve it intact according to the best of their abilities.

Question:

I know that I am supposed to go to him when he calls me to his room, even if I'm not in the apropriate mood. I also know that lying is a despicable thing, but pleasing my husband is utmost on my mind. So is it wrong of me to fake having a sexual climax with my husband? This is a terrible problem for me, because I don't want to lie, but it embarasses my husband if he cannot fulfill my pleasure. This pretending is hard to stop, and also extremely embarassing for me to admit to my husband. Please help me, and also remember me in your du'a.

Answer:

Praise be to Allah. 
We ask Allah to reward you with good for your patience and for fulfilling your husband’s desires in obedience to the command of your Lord.

Question:

Please tell me if i should wait to try and have children based on my concern for giving any children Allaah ta'Ala might give me a good islamic family environment. i have debts from long ago that involve paying ribaa and i feel that i should wait to have children until i can pay off these debts. please advise. jazakum Allahu khairan

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.
Allah says (interpretation of the meanings)

“And there is not a beast in the earth but the sustenance thereof dependeth on Allah. He knoweth its habitation and its repository. All is in a clear record.” [Hud 11:6]

Question:

I have a question about where to place our hands after the opening takbir (takbirat al-ihram) in Salah (Prayer): Are we supposed to place our hands below the navel or above or on our chest? Someone told me the other day that it was incorrect to place the hands below the navel as we are required to place it on our chest? I have been brought up in the Hanafi school, and I have been taught all along to place my hands on below my navel while praying. I would like you to clarify this issue for me.