Family

Question:

My husband wants to send 20 thousand dollars to his father to finish building a house that will never be legally ours, but his uncles, and only through word is it ours. I have objected to this, and my husband has advised me that in Islam whatever his father requests of him, he must obey. This is unfair; as it rips away our hard earning money from our children's future, for something we will never legally own. Please advise, in Islam can his father make such requests from his son?

Question:

Salaams, May Allah reward you for all your hard work.

I have been married for nearly 6 years and have a daughter who is nearly 3 years Alhumdulliah. My husband is very heavily dependant on class A drugs and also sells it most of the time. We do not get on at all and we can go on not talking to each other for weeks. In a month we probably have about 2 good days and that’s it. From the second day of our marriage I regretted getting married to him, it was a love marriage, (no love left now, more like it's become hate). I’m sure he wants to get off the drugs and every few months he tries by himself and I have to constantly put up with his mood, withdrawal symptoms etc. I have tried to help him but he doesn’t want to see the doctor, thinks he can do it by himself, but of course he can’t.

How should an educated Muslim women make advantages of her university degree, especially if it is from an international university, without affecting her duties as a wife and a mother? Perhaps that the question will ask by some Muslim women.

How can an educated Muslim women share their priorities between working and their family? What should they do to make it balance?

Question:

Respected scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. I am married and I am confused about something. Is the husband of my wife's sister a mahram (husband or close male relative forbidden in marriage) to my wife or a non-mahram? Can my wife talk to him alone in seclusion or must she cover her `awrah (parts of the body that must be covered) in front of him?

Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

"How is it possible for one to love two (or more) people at the same time?". That's may be some people thought about polygamy. They doubt about the issue of polygamy in Islam. They believe the idea that God created one mate for each person, just as Adam had his Eve, and believe of true love or loyalty and love for one person.

"How can a husband love more than one wife while his heart has (or should have) room for only one?", some people claim of that. In fact, this claim may not be true, because when a parent, for example, has more than one child, does he or she love only the first child? The answer is "no." Parents do in fact love all of their children; so, such a parent does love the second child just as he or she loves the first one. Yes, a parent may love one of his or her children more than the others, but ultimately, this parent will always have a place in the heart for every one of his or her children.

Question:

Dear scholar, I am a 18 year old Muslim and come from a good family. I always fear doing the wrong thing. In June 2008 me and my family went to Pakistan. My mom asked me if I wanted to get married and I said no. when arriving in Pakistan many of my family members pressured me into getting married. I got married and I am not happy with my marriage. my husband has done nothing wrong but feel it was a mistake because I intended to get married to another relative of mine. Could being pressured into a marriage be a legitimate reason for divorce? however, I fear divorce because I feel that my husband might do something to himself because he cares a lot about me.

Question:

What is the reason why a woman is not allowed to observe a nafil fast without her husband’s permission even though that is an act of worship, and there is no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator?.

Answer:

Praise be to Allah.

Al-Bukhari (5191) and Muslim (1026) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman to fast when her husband is present except with his permission.”