Parents not agree with her daughter choice because of status issue

muslimwedding Question:

Salaam. I like this man but my parents won't consent because of status issues. I do not want to hurt them but I also cannot hurt the man I like for almost 2 yrs.

In Islam, we should not hurt or disappoint our parents. I am trying to convince them but what if they do not agree? I do not want to go against them but I know the man I like is a good man and is also Muslim. Please advice thanks.


Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Sister, thank you for your question.

As a practicing Muslimah, you should seek a righteous spouse for marriage. Religion and good character should be the top concern of every Muslim when looking for a spouse. This is compatible with the Prophet's guidance: “If a person of acceptable religion and character presents himself for marriage, marry him, otherwise, there would be widespread sedition and rampant corruption in the land.”

Therefore, I do advise you, dear sister, to concern yourself first of all with the morals and characters of the person you want to marry.

As for the issue of your parents, if they object to your marriage on the basis of cultural or unacceptable justification, then you could seek the help of influential family members to convince them of your choice for marriage. You may resort to the imam of the masjid for help and counseling.

Sister, spare no efforts to be kind, faithful and loyal to your parents. Be sure that they wish the best for you, though they may disagree with your points of view. So, you are advised to try your best to convince them of your choice.

You have to offer istikharah prayer and seek Allah's guidance regarding your marriage. Resort to Allah in du`aa' to help you marry a right practicing Muslim who will help you also to become a better Muslimah.

Allah Almighty knows best.



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