My husband wants to send 20 thousand dollars to his father to finish building a house that will never be legally ours, but his uncles, and only through word is it ours. I have objected to this, and my husband has advised me that in Islam whatever his father requests of him, he must obey. This is unfair; as it rips away our hard earning money from our children's future, for something we will never legally own. Please advise, in Islam can his father make such requests from his son?
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Of course it is permissible, but it is permissible a hundred times dear sister.
First, your husband is responsible for his father's well being and comfort; second obtaining his father's pleasure and comfort is itself a reward and it pleases God; Third, he should politely advise his father to do the right thing legally and most likely his father will listen, and fourth, it is not going to be taken from the future of your children, how come you determine this now, it is taken from your husband present wealth.
This may never go to children for a thousand and one reasons in real life. It is true that we better leave our children wealth that leave them poor, but wealth comes and go all the time! may be this good-will giving would be a way to create more opportunity for you and your husband to earn much more and become even much wealthier and leave you children a lot more than this small amount! It is a duty on children to please their parents.
Please encourage your husband to give to his father and make him happy so that your children will do the same with you when you grow older.
Allah Almighty knows best.