Diwajibkan atas kamu berperang, padahal berperang itu adalah sesuatu yang kamu benci. Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi (pula) kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu; Allah mengetahui, sedang kamu tidak mengetahui. (al-Baqarah: 216)

Sejak pertama kali seseorang membuka matanya di dunia, Allahlah yang menetapkan setiap peristiwa yang terjadi dalam kehidupannya. Allahlah Yang Mahakuasa, Mahabijaksana, dan Mahaadil. Semua diciptakan Allah dalam rangka memenuhi rencana-Nya dan untuk tujuan Ilahiah, sebagaimana difirmankan Allah dalam sebuah ayat Al-Qur`an, "Sesungguhnya, Kami menciptakan segala sesuatu menurut ukuran. (al-Qamar: 49)

Question:

Please if you can help me I’m quite distressed at the moment. My husband and I married very young, during the first years of marriage we used to have a lot of violent arguments where he would be extremely angry and beat me and tell me he doesn't want me in his life. On one occasion when he was very angry he shouted talaq 3 times, and I said 'u didn’t mean that' and he shouted he did and slammed the door. We found out a few years later, after we started controlling our tempers that this all could constitute a divorce.

I’tikaf means staying in the mosque for a specific purpose, which is to worship Allah for a certain number of days in accordance with the believer's own wish. It is prescribed in Islam and is mustahabb (recommended) according to the consensus of the scholars.

The time for I'tikaf could be anytime when one is allowed to fast. The best time is the month of Ramadan, especially, the last ten days.

Question:

I have heard that fasting can affect the quality and quantity of milk in breastfeeding women and that it is therefore better not to fast. Does this apply to all breastfeeding women or only for those with newborns?

Answer:

Asalaam Alikum Sister,

Betapa banyak kaum muslimin yang mampu untuk menjalankan perintah Allah Azza wa Jalla dengan baik, bisa menjalankan sunnah-sunnah Nabi Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa Salam, mampu untuk menjauhkan dirinya dari zina, berkata dusta, minum khomer, bahkan mampu untuk sholat malam setiap hari, senantiasa puasa senin kamis, namun mereka tidak mampu menghindarkan dirinya dari ghibah. Bahkan walaupun mereka telah tahu bahwasanya ghibah itu tercela dan merupakan dosa besar namun tetap saja mereka tidak mampu menghindarkan diri mereka dari ghibah.

Dan janganlah sebagian kalian mengghibahi sebagian yang lain. Sukakah salah seorang dari kalian memakan daging bangkai saudaranya yang telah mati, pasti kalian mem bencinya. Maka bertaqwalah kalian kepada Allah, sungguh Allah Maha Menerima taubat dan Maha Pengasih. (Al Hujurat 12)

Question:

When Should Children Be Encouraged to Fast?

Answer:

It is encouraged that children observe fasting when they reach the age of seven, if they are physically capable of bearing it.

Some Muslim scholars state that the child should be physically disciplined if he does not fast by the age of 10, which is the same rule that is applied to prayer.

The day of doubt is the 30th day of Sha`ban. It is given that name because there is a doubt regarding the number of days of the month of Sha`ban; they may be 30 or 29. There are also some texts forbidding fasting the one or two days preceding Ramadan. In the hadith, "Do not precede the month of Ramadan with one or two days of fasting, unless it is the habit of any of you (i.e., the person is not specifying these days but ordinarily fasts on them and the few days before them)."